The Golden Rule
Can I speak of cruelty for a moment?
What the hell is wrong in this world when people feel it is ok to say something that they KNOW will be hurtful?
Karma and my own personal spiritual beliefs aside… is it just me or does NO ONE recall “The Golden Rule.” It was on a poster in my kindergarten classroom, Mrs. Miller, was my kindergarten teacher, we all sat on letters around a big circle to do various activities. And, I know for a FACT that the same damn poster hung in MY SISTER’S kindergarten classroom 2 years later when she started at the same school, same classroom that I attended.
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
A little lesson we should all start keeping in mind.
Christianity aside… you want to know the REAL meaning of that little phrase? It’s all about Karma. If you knowingly (and sometimes unknowingly) hurt someone… it’s going to come back and visit you, undoubtedly. You will bring every nasty thing you have uttered, every heartless thing you have done out of pure maliciousness back to your very own doorstep.
And… those of you lurking here, right now who KNOW, firsthand, and PERSONALLY of that which I speak. Don’t think you are immune to it, don’t think I’m going to forget your participation and don’t think it’s NOT going to come back to haunt you, because I promise you right now, that it will.
Rarely do I publicize serious family issues. Some of you may have read my series on my sister, Megan. Those were written out of love for the sister I once knew, not the person she has become and is today.
Yesterday, she showed up at my mom’s house with her significant other and her significant other’s two children. Her significant other is a much older, divorced, mom of three, who abandoned her children, shattered her own family, and has now become the dominant and controlling character in my sister’s life. The issue I have with my sister’s partner is the same issue I would have if her partner were a man. Domineering control and manipulation have no part in a healthy relationship regardless of gender.
Let’s get this straight… I have no issue with homosexuality, I am for same-sex marriage, and equal rights for same-sex couples, I do not believe that there is anything immoral or wrong nor do I even agree with terming it an “alternative lifestyle” love is love… end of story.
In the case with my sister and her significant other, I think it is highly irresponsible to not have the balls to be open and honest about your sexuality and have your life in place responsibly BEFORE bringing children into this world. To decide 1 marriage, 3 kids, and 18 years after the fact in this day and age is selfish, irresponsible, and just plain, old, poor parenting. After going through my parent’s divorce, how my sister can want to have a serious romantic relationship with ANYONE who abandons her children in this manner is absolutely beyond me.
Megan told my mother yesterday that she and her partner have moved into a house with my father and stepmother. My mom told my sister that she missed her and didn’t even know who she was anymore, worse yet, had no idea why she has chosen to cut off all communication with us.
Megan’s reply to my mom’s sincere, emotional, declaration of love for her youngest daughter?
“I’m the one who doesn’t get homesick, I don’t miss people, so don’t expect it.”
How can you even begin to be so heartless and unfeeling toward your own mother who is telling you how much she loves and misses you. My mother has done nothing to deserve this kind of treatment. Yet, obviously Megan feels differently and the people around her are encouraging this.
Honestly, what would it have hurt to have simply said, “I love you, Mom.” You don’t miss us? Fine. But, why go out of your way to be hurtful? Neither of us were raised that way. We were taught to think of others and if anything, NOT to go out of our way to hurt someone. At least I know Mom raised us that way…
For those people snooping around here, reading this, and encouraging this behavior where Megan is concerned (regardless of what you THINK you are doing) - I’m disappointed in you and I am disgusted with you as human beings. Your lack of humanity and compassion is appalling at best.
Related Tags: family, the golden rule, karma, relationship problems, same sex couples
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February 14th, 2006
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Posted in: Family Antics, My Soapbox
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