At The Last Possible Moment…
Posted By AmyD. on May 21, 2007
There are things I could discuss here this morning, but I won’t because they involve things so humiliating to me (at the moment) that I am not willing to bare my ass for your comedic pleasure. Sorry…
However, this morning I happened across my mom’s current post and it was directly relating to mine on Friday. It’s a good read – even if it is about yours truly and has a few between the lines swipes.
The good news is that mom saved my tail this time because I had NOTHING this morning. Not a damn thing; aside from a slightly annoyed husband who is glancing at the files on my desk while I am completely tuned in to the blogosphere for the moment.
Thanks to mom I now have something to address.
She has developed quite an inner circle of compadres in her blog world. They connect in a way that only they “get” and it works. I think it is quite odd that these people have known each other for possibly years and have never seen each other in the flesh. Oh they talk about the flesh..allot..blue humor…I cringe, but they seem to zing off of one another with the greatest of ease, and the loyalty to one another is impressive.
The internet has made our world smaller, much smaller. There was a time when one only had the opportunity to make friends with someone from another town, state, country if one traveled or became a pen pal or something like that. Today, the internet, the blogosphere allows us to connect with people that we have something in common with and might never have had the opportunity to explore those commonalities were it not for the internet.
Many posts have been done on this topic and they seem to range from it being a really good thing to being completely fake because you have the safe anonymity of being a faceless person behind a monitor.
Truthfully, no more or less faceless than the people we pass in the supermarket and have no recollection of seeing. Sure there are people out here who are full of it and manipulate their personality and how people see them for whatever end. Guess what? That happens in real life too.
We don’t show the same sides of ourselves to everyone. The way I am with my husband (shut up! Not like THAT) is not the way I am with a friend. The way I talk to my mom is not the way I talk to other people, we have a history that no one else can get because they weren’t there, the way I relate to Miss B is a combination of mutual respect, appreciation for someone who is in the same trenches that I fight in on a daily basis, and a sisterly love that comes from shared experiences as wives, mothers, and women.
I am digressing here a bit. What was my point? Ahh, yes. The internet has provided an outlet for someone like me who is pretty shy IRL (I hate that term) and for other reasons traditional social contact can be incredibly taxing. Not to mention the fact that while I don’t have time, typically, to get coffee or have lunch, I can usually fit in a conversation via phone or IM while I’m working. If it were not for the internet and the people I have never met in the flesh and yet somehow genuinely like far more than most people I have met in the flesh, I wouldn’t have the opportunity to converse and share ideas with people who share my interests and most of my opinions.
“Zing off each other with the greatest of ease…” – there is just something that clicks when you “meet” someone that you get and who gets you and the amount I have in common with my friends is, at times, surprising and inspiring all at once. There are a few of us who have only known each other for a matter of months and yet, it feels like years.
“and the loyalty to one another is impressive” – yes it is. The loyalty I have experienced with the people I have “never met” – is more genuine than the 95% of the “loyalty” I have been on the receiving end of from people who were supposedly my friends or family here in the flesh.
How does it go? You can pick your seat, you can pick your nose, you can pick your friends but you can’t pick your family.
True. Thank God I can pick my…
friends.
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Don’t lie… you pick your nose, too.
(Psst! ♥ ♥ )
Joe
Awwwwwwwwwww….
(your mother called me Odd. I am kind of hurt. I am way more hot than Odd. Pfft)
Online, you’re forced to pick people based on their persona, not on their proximity or looks. That means that the chances of finding people that you connect with very strongly is very high.
And Britt, you are quite odd. The oddest of bunch, actually.
Miss B You are hot… and odd.
Avi Maybe Joe is the most odd? Maybe he just hides it better? I think he hides all sorts of things. Someone should bribe Barb and get her to spill the dirty deeds.
And, that was such a smart way of putting it… maybe next time I’ll just write a long post, send it to you and then you can sum it up in one sentence for me. Bitch.
Just because I have a fetish for midgets in lederhosen doesn’t make me odd.
Joe Did I tell you that Mike had midget porn at his bachelor party? You guys ARE soulmates!!!
I’m always happy to sum up your posts in one sentence or less.
Avi Yep, I suspected as much. Shortening all sorts of things is right up your alley, isn’t it?
(oh yeah, that’s what SHE said)
That doesn’t even make sense.
Does too… I could have just said, “Yes, this makes you the OFFICIAL 30-second man.” But, I didn’t GO there…
well, I guess I just did.
No, your first one didn’t make sense. Are you still drunk?
I am not drunk. I am making perfect sense…
Don’t you have a puppet to play with or something?
Katie, Mommy’s drinking again! Help her go to bed without puking!
Awww, come on, Avi, don’t get your produce in a twist.
Hahahahaha!
yeah, i got the “shortening all sorts of things” reference right away.
Although Amy, you know it doesn’t really FIT for Adam. Adam draws simple, short, sweet things out into longgggggg… overduee…… over plannnnneeeddddd…. things.
Miss B Oooo!! I bow to your brilliance!!!! I grovel at your well shoed feet!!!! (and that is NOT a HORSE reference!!) That was VERY damn cool!!!
“Well-shoed”?
What is she, a horse?
I think I clarified that already.
You are a day late and a dollar short!
I stopped over and said hey to your Mom. And, once again – oh joy, found YET ANOTHER person younger than me in this bloggy biz thing. Where’s my goddam cane here anyhow?
Damn, RW, you’re fucking old!
Shouldn’t that be “well-shod?”
ay?
RW Pfft. Haven’t you heard that 50-something is the new 40? You are in your PRIME!
Avi You behave yourself.
Joe Yes, if one were talking about horses, but since we are talking about a wonderful woman with an awesome taste in shoes – I said well shoed, perhaps I should have said well heeled but then that sounds like a well behaved dog or something. Miss Britt is neither a dog nor a horse and she most certainly is NOT well behaved.
RW Ignore the boys they are picking on me… AGAIN.
Yes, it is true that it has made the world smaller. I’m happy for it. You see, I don’t “get along” with people here in my community usually. I just find them boring or annoying or something. With the internet, if you get boring or annoying to me, I just simply close and go on. LOL I mean, not for good or anything…well, you know what I mean.
Odd? Me? (runs around room backwards three times because she asked a question)
LOL
I like my Internet friends so much better than real people. I mean…oh you know, ’cause you “get” me – LOL
{{hugs}}
KG Exactly!!!!
Marti LOL – {{{{hugs}}}}
I so agree with KG. In my everyday, face-to-face relationships, I often feel as if I’m putting on a persona that will help me fit in. In the blogosphere, I can be who I truly am and say what I truly think, and I feel secure in knowing that the people I connect with “get” the real me. I often think more highly of you – my blog pals – than I do of my “real friends.”